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Thursday, October 29, 2009


How can you be friends with someone when everytime you see them you want them even more?! There are no such things as strangers, only friends we haven't met yet. You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can by trying to get other people interested in you. Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship, never. However rare true love may be, it is less so than true friendship. Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship. Love demands infinitely less than friendship. Friendship is the perfection of love, and superior to love; it is love ... Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes. A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway. A friend loves at all times. Friendship is Love without his wings! Friends show their love in times of trouble... Life is to be fortified by many friendships. To love and to be loved is the greatest happiness of existence. A best friend is like a four leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have. There may be somebody who is thinking about you RIGHT NOW and wishing that you were around. That's the wonderful thing about friendship -you always feel loved and cared about. ref: date: 29 October 2009, 17:26, MY

Break Up Quotes

A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it. I can't escape the thought of you. Even in my dreams you are there. It's not fair how your gone, and how you're moving on so fast, while I am still living in the past. Breaking up is not a stupid thing; instead it makes you a better person and realize your mistakes. Letting go of someone dear to you is hard, but holding on to someone who doesn't even feel the same is much harder. Giving up doesn't mean you are weak! It only means that you are strong enough to let go! Breaking up is just like having the worst nightmare after having the best dream. Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who wouldn't give up on them. If your love does not work with that person, it just means that someone else loves you more. If you can't save the relationship, at least save your pride. When you love him - truly love him, how are you supposed to get over him? I've tried everything possible ... but I just can't. Isn't that what true love is? I don't know what to do now that we're apart; I don't know how to live without the other half of my heart. My biggerst fear is that one day we will pass each other on the streets and have an artifical conversation. There is nothing sadder in this life than to watch someone you love walk away after they have left you. To watch the distance between your two bodies expand until there is nothing left but empty space... and silence. My heart only fought for what it wanted. Now my heart is having to fight to let him go." Watching you walk out of my life hasn't made me bitter or cynical about love, but rather, it has shown me that if I wanted so badly to be with the wrong person, how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along. Now that I have loved so purely and deeply, I have realized how lonely I really am. Some people think that it's holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it's letting go. You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again. ref: date: 29 October 2009, 16:28, MY

LoV3 Quote_1

You know it's love when forever is not long enough. It's true we don't know what we've got until its gone, but we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives. Love is the shortest distance between hearts. Life and love are like hide and seek. People spend their whole lives looking for love, but when they finally forget to look for it, they find it. See there's this place in me where your fingerprints still rest, your kisses still linger, and your whispers softly echo. It's the place where a part of you will forever be a part of me. The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before. If you love someone, do not put their name in a heart because hearts can be broken, instead put their name in a circle, because circles go on forever. Love is just a word until someone you meet gives it a proper meaning. ref: date: 29 October 2009, 15:44, MY

Saturday, October 24, 2009

L.O.V.E (pt.2)

Tips • It does not make you a bad person to desire someone else's love, even if they do not love you. However, to truly love someone, you must let them be free. It is selfish to blame them for your feelings. • There are many types of love, for example: a mother-son love is different from a best friend's love, which is different from a romantic love. Don't be ashamed to tell anyone that you love your friends as much as you love anyone else in your life. • You have to find someone that will suit you, someone you feel comfortable with - not just someone to make love to. • Sometimes love is all we need. As a word, love can be found worldwide and is often used to describe compassion and/or emotional attachment. Accepting those you love for who they are is part of love. You also need to learn to accept yourself before you can accept another. If you cannot love yourself, how are you to love another? • Love genuinely. Do not compare your feelings now to what your feelings were when you were with another mate. At times, we can experience rejection. • Realize that love is a feeling that wikiHow can describe and attempt to assist, but ultimately, you are the one who must take action in order to discover love. • Do things that make the other person feel good and happy, but do not smother them with gifts and attention. • Consider some tips about what people in love do. o People in love are sensitive to each other's needs, and endeavour to meet them even when they do not feel like doing it. o Men and women may be equal in value but different by nature. People who truly are in love give their mates "space" to develop their potential and find their fulfillment in life. o Love does not brag. People who are truly in love refrain from rehearsing their good traits just to show off. Bragging in a relationship often is really defensiveness. o People who are truly in love do not insist that their way is best and demand that their mates give in to them. o People who are truly in love are considerate of each other's feelings and courteous in their actions toward one another. Sadly, sarcasm is a way of life for some couples. They ridicule each other, belittle each other and trade jibes with a fury. They may say it is all in fun, but it leaves wounds that will someday become festering sores. o People who are truly in love look out for their mate's best interests as much as their own. Those in love should be concerned not only about their own individual interests, but about the interests of the other as well. o People who are truly in love control their anger when the other displeases them. We are all human, and all humans feel anger periodically, but we only express our anger in destructive ways when we are counting on someone else to meet our needs. o People who truly love each other do not take pleasure in their mate's disappointments or failures. o People who truly love each other treat their mates with absolute trust. Some husbands and wives torment themselves with groundless suspicions. If you look for trouble you will find it every time. o People who truly love look forward to their relationship growing more meaningful and precious. They have hope. Which is an attitude that happily anticipates the good. It isn't being blind and denying that there are problems, but it does look beyond the problems. People who truly love each other do not allow their problems to rob them of their happiness. • Remember there is no failure in love, because once you tell somebody whom you love, that you love him/her, then you have already succeeded in love. ref: date: 22 October 2009, 17:05, MY

Friday, October 23, 2009

L.O.V.E (pt.1)

Dear ALL, Here is some tips that I get while browsing the internet during working hour :P Kind of headache looking at numbers from 8am-6pm. So, let’s take a break… Love is a strange thing. It can be the most amazing feeling in the world, or it can really hurt, but in the end love is something most, if not all of us, will face. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving. Steps 1. Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person. 2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well. 3. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally. 4. Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way. 5. Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Don't make an idol of the person you love. This will place them under undue pressure and will likely result in you losing them. 6. Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love. ref: date:22 October 2009, 17:05, MY

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Jika... (diduakan cinta)

Bagaimana perasaan jika diduakan cinta? Membuka bicara tentang cinta sedang aku tak tahu erti cinta. Katakan cinta itu perasaan sayang terlalu mendalam... Bayangkan perasaan cinta diduakan. Bagaimanakah penerimaan anda? Sedih yang terlampau akibat terlalu sayang atau perasaan marah kerana ditipu? Atau mungkin kecewa kerana terasa disia-siakan? Mengikut dari segi logik, perasaan tersebut adalah wajar bagi pihak yang cintanya diduakan. Jarang ada insan yang rela berkongsi kasih. Jika aku... 1. Mungkin aku akan menangis semalaman, mengenang perkara yang berlaku 2. Mungkin aku akan lebih rapat dengan ahli keluarga dan teman-teman lain, cuba untuk berhibur (lupakan kisah sedih) 3. Mungkin juga mencari tahu kelebihan dan kekurangan pasangan barunya untuk dibandingkan denganku (mungkin aku tak cukup hebat di matanya) 4. Mungkin aku akan sibukkan diri dengan kerjaku atau menghabis masa dengan alat lukisanku (my passion) yang buat aku terlalu fokus dan lupa kisah yang kurang menyenangkan. 5. Lebih teruk, aku akan hilang percaya pada cinta. Sememangnya aku tidak percaya pada cinta. Apa itu cinta? Beitu besarkah kuasa sehingga mampu menakluk dunia. Apa bezanya dengan kasih dan sayang? Tidak cukupkah dengan kasih dan sayang hingga perlu rasa cinta? Dari sudut pandanganku, aku percaya cinta itu hadir kerana nafsu. Tamak kerana mahu memiliki yang mana perasaan itu kadang-kadang boleh membinasakan. Tanpa mengambil peduli kerasional dan kewajaran sesuatu tindakan.Cinta itu merupakan satu klimaks hasil dari perasaan kasih dan sayang. Perasaan itu itu mungkin tahap tertinggi rasa kasih dan sayang tapi sayangnya untuk seketika cuma. Berbeza dengan rasa kasih dan sayang yang lahir dari sikap tanggung jawab dan toleransi berserta kemahiran komunikasi yang baik dan berkesan. Bagi pasangan yang memilih untuk berkasih, hubungan mereka dijangka bertahan lebih lama dari pasngan bercinta. Kebarangkalian pasangan ini untuk berkongsi kasih juga tersangat sedikit jika dibandingkan dengan pasangn bercinta. Sekadar meluah pendapat...

Friday, September 11, 2009

Aku + Dia = Kami

Dia memang bisa mencairkan hati mana-mana gadis. Termasuklah hati kerasku. Punya rupa dan gaya menarik yang membuat ramai gadis tertawan. Bibirnya sering terukir senyuman dan kata-kata manis menjadi siulan. Dengannya aku lemas. Lemas dengan caranya. Lemas dengan layanannya. Semua memandang dia hebat tapi denganku dia tidak. Semua dapat kulihat jelas. Tiada yang tersorok darinya. Dia tidak seperti sahabat lelakiku yang lain, luarannya tampak gagah tapi dalamannya sedikit goyah. Aku tahu dia baik, tapi sayang punya ego yang agak tinggi. Aku tahu dia boleh menyayangi wanitanya dengan setulus hati, tapi tidak menjaga perasaan wanitanya. Untuk aku bersamanya, aku perlu waktu untuk memahaminya. Untuk menerimanya, aku perlu dia memahamiku. Aku tidak perlu dia sentiasa di depan mataku tapi aku mahu dia selalu denganku. Aku tahu dia mahu teman yang bisa selalu disamping untuk menemaninya dan yang boleh di bawa bersama menaiki tangga citi-citanya. Aku harus berfikir panjang jika ingin serius dengannya. Selagi dia masih ingat bekas tunangnya, selagi mulutnya tak berhenti bercerita tentang bekas tunangnya, maka selagi itu aku tidak akan menerimanya. Aku bukan tisu yang mengelap air matanya dan di buang selepas diguna. Aku juga bukan baju yang boleh ditukar mengikut kemahuannya. Dia harus menerima aku seadanya aku.

Ingat Dia...

Hairan. Semakin ingin aku melupakan dia, semakin ingat aku pada dia. Sudah bermacam cara aku cuba. Antaranya, cuba untuk tidak menghubungi telefonnya, tidak cuba melawat "webpage"nya dan tidak juga menghantar email padanya. Setakat hari ini aku mampu menahan diri dari selalu berjumpa dengannya. Tapi setiap kali aku hampir berjaya untuk jauh darinya, dia datang dan buat aku kembali mengingatinya. Aku rasa susah kerana aku tahu hubungan kami tidak akan ke mana-mana. Lama aku bersahabat denannya, dan diakui dia memang seorang yang baik, memahami dan selalu buat aku fikir jauh. Mungkin kerana sifat dan sikapnya buat aku tertarik padanya. Aku tahu tidak wajar bagiku punya perasaan begitu kepada sahabatku. Bagiku, perasaan yang aku rasa hanya akan buat ikatan persahabatan yang kami bina menjadi rapuh. Aku risau dengan sikapku yang selalu terbawa-bawa akan membuatku hilang sahabat sepertinya. Memilikinya sebagai sahabat sudah cukup bagiku dan untuk meminta lebih aku rasa agak keterlaluan. Mungkin ada yang berpendapat aku terlalu membesarkan isu. Kuakui jauh di sudut hati aku suka padanya. Terasa ingin terbang tatkala terlihat senyumannya. Bila mengenangkan latar belakang dirinya, aku terasa kecil di sisinya. Dia punya harta yang boleh beli satu semesta, juga dari keluarga yang tinggi statusnya. Bersahabat dan bersosial dengan yang setaraf dengannya. Dibandingkan dengan aku yang tak punya apa-apa, ibarat langit dan bumi. Ibarat pipit dan enggang. Kerana itu, aku memilih untuk meletakkan penghadang yang boleh menghadkan perhubungan yang mana itu membuat aku rasa susah. Namun, aku rasa perlu bagiku demi menjaga hubungan yang bernama persahabatan.

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Aku dan Sahabat MAYA

Tidak dinafikan aku lebih senang bersahabat di alam MAYA walau ku tahu tidak ramai yang jujur. Aku faham, bukan semua maklumat peribadi bolah dikongsi. Bagiku itu semua tidak penting dalam persahabatan MAYA. Bukan aku begitu obses dengan sahabat MAYA tapi aku selesa bersahabat dengn mereka. Di alam MAYA mereka menjadi apa yang mereka inginkan. Mereka lebih "jujur" dengan diri sendiri dan itu sudah memadai bagiku.
Dalam seronok bersahabat, tidak ku sedari ada yang terpikat dengan caraku yang sangat bersahaja. Jujur aku katakan, aku seronok menjadi dirku di alam MAYA berbanding diriku di alam NYATA. Aku di alam NYATA tepaksa menjadi aku seperti yang dikehendaki orang sekeliling. Aku tidak boleh menyuarakan isi hati dan tidak boleh berbahas pendapat. Aku rimas. Tidak kusangka, sikap yang sangat bersahaja memikat hati beberapa sahabat.
Pada mulanya aku fikir mereka (sahabat MAYA) hanya sekadar bergurau senda. Manakan tidak, tidak pernah bersua muka, tidak pernah bertentang mata dan tiba-tiba meluah rasa. Tidak keruan hati seketika.
Antara percaya atau tidak, aku yang naif tentang cinta sering dikatakan mampu menggoda siapa pun jejaka tanpa perlu berkata-kata. Itu hanyalah kta-kata mereka yang hanya mengenali aku secara kasar. Namun, siapa percaya bahawa aku yang berusia 24 tahun ini tidak tahu makna cinta?
Teman sepejabat pernah berkata bahawa cara dan gayaku ditambah dengan wajah yang sedap dipandang, membuat dia berasa teringin memiliku. Setelah seketika mengenaliku, dia akhirnya tahu bahawa aku hanya milikku. Sangat mudah untuk didekati tetapi sukar dimiliki. Tidak pernah terlintas dihati untuk mengguris hati, tapi pengalaman lalu buatku terlalu berhati-hati. Akhirnya aku menjadi paranoid. Trauma dan fobia terhadap cinta.
Buat sahabat MAYA, bukan aku tidak pernah suka kamu. Malah, sayang pada kamu. Tapi sayangku padamu hanya sebagai sahabat. Ketahuilah, sahabat merupakan orang terdekat bagiku. Sahabatlah yang lebih mengenaliku. Cukuplah sekadar menyayangiku sebagai sahabat kerana aku tidak mampu memberi lebih dari itu.

Thursday, August 13, 2009


Aku hairan.. Setiap kali aku rasa suka, pasti duka datang menjengah. Biarpun rasa itu sementara cuma. Pasrah aku menunggu bahagia. Yang dinanti tak pernah tiba. Akhirnya rasa itu kubiarkan saja. Rasa itu datang lagi. Semakin hari semakin menusuk sanubari. Tatkala aku cuba mencari erti, rasa itu perlahan pergi. Aku menanti lagi. Rasa itu tidak lagi kuendah. Sebelum hati terluka parah. Sebelum hati ditambah nanah. Biarkan aku sendiri pasrah. Bukan aku membenci. Tidak pernah langsung terdetik di hati. Mungkin aku tidak layak untuk dikasihi. Lantas kubiarkan rasa itu mati. Kini aku sendiri. Kujalani hidup di bumi hakiki. Tiada yang harus di nanti. Tiada juga yang harus dipeduli. Tiada yang perlu dipuji, juga tiada yang patut dikeji. Kini, segalanya tentang aku dan aku yang selalu sendiri. Rasa itu kubiarkan pergi...

Monday, July 13, 2009

~I think I'm in love~

I think I'm in love with someone I don't really know I think I'm in love but I don't know how to show The fact is I'm afraid to confess I'm just to scared the relationship we build will get mess I'm just a girl waiting for my dearest prince charming Standing at stair case and hoping there will someone come and take me away Like in a fairy tales we're singing and dancing Under the moonlight we're kising In reality I know There'll be no such thing Exist only in my Fantasy But who cares???? As long as I'm happy **sounds stupid, right?? frankly speaking, I'm not good either in writing and speaking but I feel good everytime I express my feeling by writing... huhu..

Monday, April 13, 2009

~L.O.V.E~ If you love me, let me know. If not, please gently let me go., anonymous I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you., roy croft I self destruct every relationship so that i don't get hurt... but in truth i just hurt myself worse in the long run..,anonymous If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be.Anonymous The couple that fights the most is the one most in love... it shows they care enough to notice the other one screwed up and care enough to mention it to the person so they can fix it. When you stop fighting it means you stopped caring.Shawna Waltemyer The soul mate is what we aspire to and like to understand about us, is what we deem to be perfection, purity and endless regarding our own being.Sorin Cerin Women wish to be loved not because they are pretty, or good, or well bred, or graceful, or intelligent, but because they are themselves.Henri Frederic Amiel I laugh, I love, I hope, I try I hurt, I need, I fear, I cry. And I know you do the same things too, So we're really not that different, me and you.Colin Raye Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.John Lennon I get the best feeling in the world when you say hi or even smile at me because I know, even if its just for a second, that I've crossed your mind.UNKNOWN Love is like a war:Easy to begin Hard to end!ancient Proverbs What can the love in my soul be compared to another wonderful soul which is so far and yet so close of my self? What can this symbiosis between two souls can be? What can love be when you feel you cannot sleep at night, that every drop of dew becomes a crystal in your heart, when every breeze of wind has magical meanings? What can love be when you feel that you want nothing more in this world that to be with the soul you love? But what can love be in other transcendental realities? What about our souls? Are our souls a waterfall, a true Niagara or a smile, a flirt of an angel? Are our souls a mere mood of a fairy or a lightening in a summer rain?Our souls could be all of this and much more. But what really happens in that transcendental reality when we feel we are truly in love, that we love so much that it hurts? That the air in the room is unbreathable, that the sentimental, spiritual or physical distances kill us? What happens when dawn find us sadder than ever, looking for an excuse or an argument for the person we love so much, our Great Love? What are all thses? What are the looks lost in the desert horizons of unfulfilment or those in the eyes that deeply loose each other in the others inside the souls?Sorin Cerin Just because somebody doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.Anonymous Love is a gift from God, and as we obey His laws and genuinely learn to serve others, we develop God's love in our lives. Love of God is the means of unlocking divine powers which help us to live worthily and to overcome the world.David B. Haight Live the life you've dreamedHenry David Thoreau Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs. Being purged, a fire sparkling in lovers eyes. Being vexed, a sea nourished with lovers tears. What is it else? A madness most discreet, a choking gall and a preserving sweet.William Shakespeare First love is only a little foolishness and a lot of curiosity: no really self-respecting woman would take advantage of it.George Bernard Shaw Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.Mother Teresa love is like crushing your heart into dust,but within that particles of dust lay the love that will always be for you...gas arevalo "My heart is a red rose. When happy, it sparkles brillianly. When sad it bleeds and forms a dark puddle under it. When my heart dies, the soft fragile petals fall. So you might want to put your rose in a vase." Claire Charmont